Mohabbat

"Mohabbat bhi Zindagi ki tarah hoti hai
Har mod asaan nehi hota, har mod pe khushiya nehi milti.
Jab hum zindagi ka saath nehi chhodte toh
Mohabbat ka saath kyun chhode??
---Mohabbatein

Wednesday, 17 October 2018

Back To Back..


There were no better option than availing the train from my native place to reach Bengaluru as soon as possible, availing the flight was an option but it would delayed my arrival there coz to avail the flight I had to travel five hours of long bus journey to reach the nearby metro city from where the flights are available, after that it would take more one and half hour more to reach the airport availing a cab, on the other hand train to Bengaluru was available from my place so I decided to utilize those seven hours of time in my journey towards  Bengaluru, it was a thirteen hours of journey and luckily I got a seat in ac 2 tier.


I got the seat in the lower birth and on the other side there was a girl, I never have the habit to talk with the strangers while traveling rather I prefer to read books or listening songs , so I took out the book and started reading, after a while the girl asked 

…Hi Uncle, what’s your destination?

Replying her I asked the same, we talked for a while and came to know that she is going Bengaluru to take admission in M.Tech. in a famous university there, looking at my book  she shared her interest about detective stories, we went for some discussions about different writers from Saradindu Bandopadhyay to Sir Arthur Conan Doyel and also discussed about different detectives like Miss Marple, Feluda, Byomkesh Bakshi, Basab and obviously Sherlock Holmes, her reading habit made me too happy to express in words, now a days the addiction in social media among the young gen is very common to observe, but this girl is addicted to books of different genres.

Though I was very much tensed about Rajib but I also liked the conversation with her. That day morning around 11AM Arpan informed me over phone that Rajib has met a dangerous accident while returning back from a meeting driving his car, Rajib used to be my neighbor in our last rental house, he is almost 11 years younger than me, I used to help him in the science subjects, gradually a good brotherhood build up with time, he used to and still respect me as his elder brother, with time the brotherhood transformed with in good friendship, we have spent a long time  together, though from last eight years we are not in regular touch coz getting the job Rajib has shifted to Bengaluru and I have remained almost motionless, sometime during festive season he used to visit my town, his birth place.


Arpan  asked for my suggestion whether he should inform Rajib’s parents or not and I suggested not to inform them cause that day morning they had just started their journey for a trip abroad, Rajib informed me earlier about it.


As I have mentioned earlier that I don’t have the habit to talk with the strangers much so even after one hour of conversation I did not asked the name of the girl, in the mean time I also came to know that the girl has immense interest in chess, just like me, so we planned for a game in her laptop, when we were making the plan I felt ashamed of myself for not asking her name and then went for it, the natural question that knocked into my mind to ask about her parents and when she informed me about her father’s name it gave me a shock, I remained stunned for a while and found it tough whether should I laugh or should be surprised.


Have you played chess against computer?...she asked me after clicking the chess icon in her laptop.

I replied…yes

Have you defeated computer...she asked again

Yah, many times…I replied with a smile.

I have played many times against computer but never been able to defeat Mr. Computer…she expressed her sadness.
We went for five back to back games and she defeated me back to back five times, I will not show the excuse that I was unable to concentrate in the game coz I was worried about Rajib, rather I already made up my mind that I have nothing to do until I reach there. So, I played with full concentrate but yet failed to defeat her.

After the books and chess we went for some general discussions and she shared a lot about her family history, she shared how her family has dropped down from a millionaire to a middle class family after lots of misshapen, her great grandpa (grandpa of her dad) was a very famous and popular personality during the reign of British govt. for his kindness, helpful nature and high designation. I was listening to her with deep concentration to find out whether she has any wrong info about her ancestors or not.

The journey was very special for me, the train arrived in the scheduled time, Arpan came to receive me, an uncle of the girl received her from the station, bidding her good bye I took my seat in the car and the thought was knocking into my mind…should I had to inform her? 

The sky was being clear with the enriching sun rays, it was around 5:30 AM when after half an hour of cab journey the cab stopped in front of the gate, I was surprised after getting down from the cab…it was not a hospital in my view front, it was the house of Rajib decorated with flowers and pandals, uncle aunt and Rajib came out from the house with a meaning full smile and a tricky look and almost announced their win

…we were not sure whether you will attend the ceremony or not.

…so we made this plan

Rajib added

…above all it’s my marriage and I can’t imagine it without your presence, but sorry for the disturbance, I know you almost from your childhood days, you rarely attend any function so I could not take any risk.

Back to back two surprising and stunning experiences made my brain almost out of my control, the meeting with the girl in the train already made me restless; from the time I have left her in the station I was eagerly waiting to share the “spiritual” incident with my sister…

I reached two days earlier of the marriage, the day passed by with lots of works, taking care of the decoration and arrangements, though Rajib already managed everything so that the his closed ones do not need to take much work load, yet I took some responsibilities coz it was tough to spend time lazily.

In the evening, around 8PM Rajib,me and his friends were spending some lazy time in the terrace, Rajib informed me that he is gonna introduce me to an interesting human being, I asked two-three times about the personality but he was more interested to give me a surprise.

We decided to spend the time with some unusual activity and that was…everyone will give performance in which he/she is very poor, after some performances it was my turn and I have to share a joke, oh God! I cried out silently, what is gonna happen now, I don’t want to make cry anyone in this fantastic time. The idea of making a joke was proposed by Rajib, above all he is well acquainted with my nature. So finally I tried to deliver a joke and when I finished an young boy stepped into the room and informed me

…Sorry uncle but my grandpa (Nana) did not inform me about this 

He said it very seriously and then laughed out.

I was looking at him being perplexed for a moment coz it was almost beyond my imagination but my mind immediately calculated the relation…may be its true.

I asked being highly curious…are you…?

Rajib interrupted…yes, you guessed right.

After the sudden proposal of Rajib that I have to share a joke, I gave lots of pressure to my mind and finally a joke knocked into my mind, it has became very common to make funny jokes with the eminent personalities, it becomes more relatable for the listeners and it also explains the popularity of the personality on whom the joke is made, such one I read much earlier, it was on our fav megastar Rajni Sir, yes, I am taking about Rajnikanth.

It was really very surprising to meet that boy, Rajni Sir and Dhanush both are my so much fav that I can’t express in words, I have watched all the movies of these two personalities.

I enjoyed a lot there, made some new friends…o sorry! Actually credit should be given to those who showed interest on me , we exchanged our whatsapp numbers and naturally after few months only few of them kept good contact with me and after few more months fewer persons continued the chatting, to some extent I am responsible for it…it takes to make a quarrel.


Day after the reception I shifted myself from there, though Rajib made intense request to stay for few more days coz he was not going anywhere for honeymoon for next one month…he did not get leave from his office.

It was the first time I boarded the Lufthansa flight, it was Rajib who took the responsibility to book my ticket and he chose that airline, their service made me too happy to explain, though it was short journey but their hospitality was amazing. It was enriching experience with Lufthansa.

I already decided to share my sister about the meeting with the girl after returning, so after being freshen up I dialed her number, she picked up the call and after exchanging the general queries I said

….do you remember Doyel?

Who Doyel?...she asked

And again added…my classmate or our old neighbors? I can’t relate with the name

Give some pressure to your brain….i requested

She remained silent for a while and then replied

….no I really can’t remember

…ok giving you a clue, she is our relative?

She took some more time and replied

…no I can’t,  pls don’t create suspense…

I interrupted

...once I shared a story with you, it was made by me, I made it when our younger uncle became father being blessed with a girl, they kept her name “Doyel”, that time my age was 25, did you remember the story

…yes I remember, the plot of the story was…may be one day it will happen that I will travel in a bus or train, after a while Doyel will sit beside me, then we will go for conversation for long time, she will share about her family and ancestors, hearing her parents name I will remain silent, will pretend as I know nothing, the most interesting part will be that she will call me “uncle” during the entire conversation, its natural coz due to the age difference she will feel to call me as “Uncle”, as we have not met and there is no chance to meet so she will never know that the “Uncle” is actually her “Elder brother” in relation. Is not is funny?

… Exactly.

So what about that story? my sister asked.

…exactly

Why are you repeating the word?...she asked being curious
I am repeating coz the story has come true, exactly everything has happened in the way I mentioned in the story

…are you joking?

I shared the entire experience in the train.

After listening she was totally stunned just like I became.
The entire journey was an unplanned one, #SayYesToTheWorld…this was how accepted everything from the experience during the train journey. Whatever happened were beyond my lists and plans…#TheBlindList ones.


#SayYesToTheWorld with Lufthansa to explore the world with amazing experience during the journey.







  


P.S. My age is not around 45 years, it needs more time to reach there, this post is written with futuristic thoughts  and i think in future Lufthansa will continue their service and will flourish more with time, their adaption with the changing time will help them to exist with their own glory and fame.

















Friday, 12 October 2018

"Smells" are no more #DurgaPujaSpecial

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You can relate with this post deeply if you have spent your life (short or long time period does not matter) in any village of West Bengal, logically those who have/are spent/spending life in towns or specially in metro cities are far away from the smells of nature, yes, I am talking about nature, the towns and metro cities have become so much polluted that we all are craving for some fresh and pure air.

Thankfully, a long time period of my life, my childhood days, I have spent in my village, this is the reason, just like other villagers, I have deep relation with soil, the mud, trees, fruits, ponds,hays and agricultural fields and greenery.
 
Lying on haystack

If you close your eyes you will experience the sound pollution in a town or metro city but if you do the same in a village you can experience the sound of passing air, the twittering of birds, the sound of movement of dried leafs, the smell of the soil…everything leaves an enchanting effects in the mind.

The greenery…where it is in any town or metro city?  You have to travel a long  to experience it leaving the city but if you are in village the greenery is very common to experience.

No, it’s not a comparative post mentioning the differences between a village and a city, what I wanna mean is…you become much attached to the nature and its enchanting effects if you are from village.

The vanished smell in air

Yes, this year the smell in the air is no more…I am talking about the season ,the festive season, this is why I have already mentioned the name of the state…West Bengal, with the pomp and grandeur Durga Puja is celebrated here can be hardly experienced anywhere. This is actually the time for the season “autumn”…the weather remains pleasant for more than two months, the dew from the evening gives a pleasant experience and sometime becomes the reason for cold and cough but unfortunately all these are vanished, when there is no dew so no question of its smell, it’s just yesterday the rain due to “Titli” has started here, before that we were suffering from scorching heat in the day time. The essence of dew, the smell in the air all these are very much attached with Durga Puja which knocks your mind with the feeling “pujo ese geche” (Durga Puja is knocking at the door), the scorching heat made us feel that it’s the may-June season.

The vanished smell of Colors

This year what I have missed a lot to see is…the coloring of houses, the age old Bengali tradition is…the coloring of houses take place just one or two months before the Puja but this year in my colony only a single house has gone for it but not for the Puja purpose rather for the marriage of their daughter that will take place in the month of November, rest of my colony members have completed the coloring three four months earlier, even in our house the coloring of the second floor has been completed in the beginning of this year so no question of any more work.

I have been brought up experiencing the lime was of houses while staying in my village the colors have some special smells which I cant forget even now, the most intense effect related to this is the smell of pitch, yes the pitch which is used for the construction of roads, surprised? Actually there WAS a common practice in the villages that the main door of the houses used to be made of woods and to keep them safe from water and other natural effects the door used to be colored with pitch…oh God, I can’t forget the smell till now and I miss it a lot, even the houses which were made of mud, their outer portion used to be colored with pitch.

Now a days the use of pitch has vanished and this year in my colony and nearby colonies no one has gone for coloring…most of them have completed few months earlier ….so you can understand the vanished feelings...

The vanished season

As I have mentioned above, until “Titli” has stepped in here we were experiencing the season as May-June, otherwise the morning of autumn has a different feelings, you experience the coldness from the dawn to morning, the freshness in the trees and plants filled with dew drops makes your day and in this context it reminded me of the poem…

Dekhite giyachhi porbotmala
Dekhite giyachhi sindhu
Dekha hoina du chokh meliya
Ghor hote sudhu dui paa feliya…
Ekti dhaner shisher upor ekti sishir bindu”

This one is written by Nobel winning famous Bengali poet Rabindranath Tagore

The meaning is…in the search of beauty I have traveled lots of places, have explored different countries, mountains and rivers but I have missed to cherish the beauty of a dew drop upon the grass just outside my house.

Catkin…this one plays a vital role with this season, to be exact…with this festive season, walking out in the morning exploring the jungle of catkin, the mild blowing air and the falling dew drops with pleasant sun rays make you feel that you are almost in heaven. It’s not only heart and mind soothing rather very eye soothing also.
But this year, due to improper season and the scorching heat the catkins are very rare to see.

These are some pics captured last year.


Heading to Explore


Cleaning the bushes
Adjacent to the outer wall of the boundary walls of the house, just beside the road,the small grasses grows up during the winter season and this is the time the cleaning take place with the honor “Maa Aschhe”(Durga Maa is coming), so everything should be neat and clean. This cleaning actually takes place average two weeks before the puja but this year I have experienced it just from yesterday.

So finally, which we, the Bengalis feel from two months of arrival of Durga Puja every year, this year we have started to feel the same to some extent just from yesterday, yesterday evening while talking with some of my colony members they expressed the same…”Due to the weather change, now we are feeling like Durga Puja is knocking at the door”

New dresses and gorgeous pandals are also attached with Durga Puja but the feelings of mind, the happiness and the mental attachments with the season and the nature…all these play most vital role in our lives.

Actually what I feel is…you can experience the gorgeous decoration and designer dresses in other occasion also but the feeling of “Pujo ese geche” or the effects of nature in your heart and mind can only be experienced when all these natural phenomenon take place and you are attached with it.


“Pujo Pujo gondho” means “it smells like Puja” ,very common feelings of the Bengalis from two months earlier of Puja, its intensity has decreased a lot.


Later I will try my level best to share more about Durga Puja but I really doubt coz this year i have some responsibilities in my shoulders regarding Durga Puja.






Friday, 21 September 2018

Whats Your View ????

Do you think "Marriages are made in heaven" ?

Its an age old concept...

Actually i find it difficult to believe it when i look around me...the society ,activities of human being,psychology and the intentions.

While growing up with time you gradually realize that whatever you can ignore but not the truths.
 
I have shared my personal views on this concept.

Go through these posts and share your views...

The Ordered Society...

Conversation With My Son...A Futuristic Conversation on Practicality and Marriage


Close, Closer And Closest To God...Part 1 #MyFriendAlexa


Close, Closer And Closest To God---Part 2 The Explanation


Lets Face The Truth


Uncertainity Principle, Society And Myths



Earning Without Investment 







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Wednesday, 19 September 2018

Earning Without Investment

"Money begets Money"

so true it is, in front of money your talent and feelings are nothing.


The word "Corruption" has not come into existence in just few months, for long and long years the common people has noticed, faced and witnessed corruption in different fields,whether getting a job or to pass any official paper...black money is a big game so i don't want to talk about it.



"Buying a job" is nothing new concept, from past several decades people, who have the capability,buying jobs where the most eligible ones are ignored or getting it hard to achieve their goals finding  a way in the narrow lane which is left after the corrupted portion.


without going to such common way of earning i wanna focus on the issues where even without spending a single penny you can earn a lot, what i am gonna share is  too much prominent now a days or not i don't know but if we go back to thirty or forty years ago,we can easily experience how your money is not spent at all but you can earn a huge amount.
Yes, i am talking about dowry, where you actually don't need to spend money but you can earn a lot, earlier days when dowry used to exist in this society with his own fame and glory,those days the amount of dowry used to vary according to the designation of the grooms,yes designation of the grooms... the more higher designation the grooms ...the more the dowry amount used to be, not only the amount of money the parents of a bride had to pay rather the golden jewellery, furniture and some expensive gifts to the groom they had to give. In short , the grooms used to show their monthly salary and the parents of the brides used to pay the amount of dowry very happily.


Though the practice has changed a little bit in this present society but the truth has not...govt jobs are still the preferred ones for the family of the brides,may be the scenario has changed a bit and private jobs are preferable now a days but the point is...amount of money plays a vital role, its not a gentle behavior to ask for the monthly salary so they ask about the designation to guess the salary.


Its very common to experience that the family of the grooms taking money from the family of the brides for the reception party after the marriage.

Few days ago i have come to know about a girl who has still kept relation with her ex-boyfriend even after the three years of her marriage, the narrator and some other people criticized the girl for such unethical work, when its about Big Bang,the people with common sense ask the question after hearing the big bang theory and the question is..."what was there before big bang"? and i swear i have common sense to some extent, not only the question "what was there before big bang" knocked into my mind rather about the girl i asked "why did he get married with someone else when she loves a boy whole heartily" and the answer i received is...her parents forced her to get married, now the rule of the society is...how and in which circumstances you have got married does not matter, you have to carry on this marriage at any cost, your preferences, feelings and desires does not matter.



Actually she has been forced to get married with someone else coz her parents came to know about her relationship, the boy with whom she was/is in love was then an unemployed one so her parents even did not talk to him and arranged her marriage almost overnight,ready made earnings are most preferred....i don't think she is doing  wrong keeping relation with her boyfriend, this incident took place three years earlier and just after one year of the marriage of the girl his boyfriend has qualified for a job....
So, what played the vital role in the whole incident is....money, who cares for the feelings,desires and capabilities specially in such issues.



 

Later in my post i will share about an eminent personality...he was rejected by the parent of his beloved and later he has left a sign of his love which is too big to explain...let the suspense remain. should i follow him !!!!!...confused, 219 shayaris are tiny in front of his work, Compared to him...i am also tiny.


now here is the most interesting part of this post...a boy who is in love with a girl for more than last seventeen years and for such deep love he has got only a cup of tea made by her where her husband eating delicious foods prepared by her, her boyfriend belongs to a middle class family and her parents always wanted a ready made rich family for the marriage of their daughter.
when i listened the entire story i wondered...only a cup of tea is the value for such a long term feelings !!!!!!

So, the more the salary is...the more the amount of dowry.
The more the salary is....the proposals(Sending + receiving) to/ from the more rich families.


The more the salary is...ladies, pls check why you have been preferred...for the salary or for  your good character !!!!! if you are practical...nothing to suggest.


"You know its really very tough now a days to run a family with a single income "...its so common na ?...Money begets money.


Be practical boys...in-laws with strong financial background is a big support.


Be practical girls...the more the salary of your spouse  the more secure your life is.









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Friday, 14 September 2018

Tadap---219



जुदाइ का ये असर तो देखो

शराब भी बेअसर हो गया

नींद तब भी छुटी थी आंखो से 

तलाश आज भी जारी है.



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Wednesday, 12 September 2018

Uncertainity Principle, Society And Myths

yah , yah, i am talking about Heisenberg's Uncertainty Principle, those who have science background are well acquainted with this principle but those who don't have let me explain you in short...The position and momentum(Mass x Velocity) both cant be measured exactly at the same time.
Means, if in a certain time you are able to calculate the exact position then it will not be possible for you to calculate the exact value of momentum at that time and vice versa.


Heisenberg's uncertainty principle is one of the basic principles of quantum mechanics which deals with wave nature of particles.

Now think about the stone age or something like that time period, i mean the time when the human beings used to live in caves, did they have any idea about why it rains? yes, it was certain that water droplets fall from sky but they did not know why ? so the concept of creating rain God came into existence and worshiping that God during drought became a practice. May be you can raise question behind this thought but to make you more sure let me remind you about the tradition of worshiping God during solar eclipse, it was the belief of the people that due to two demons Rahu and Ketu the solar eclipse takes place, Rahu swallows sun and gradually sun comes out from other side because  Rahu is a head only while ketu is his rest of the body part, the original reason were not known so the concept of Rahu's swallowing came into existence, now the question is who brought this idea ? as i have shared in my earlier post titled...  The Ordered Society  in ancient India some genius scientists had deeper knowledge in different fields of science but on the other hand education was not so common, so they used to attach religious sentiment so that people perform the right jobs and get benefited, its true that after the sunset its not healthy to take foods, so to prevent the people from taking food during solar eclipse they attached a religious sentiment and made the people busy in worship and kirtan during solar eclipse.


when its about carrier or job its true that if you continue your efforts one day you will surely find a way out, you will not be a total failure at least, may be for some reasons it will not be possible for you to achieve what you exactly wanted but at least you will not be considered as total waist, somehow you will manage to do something, may be you have to accept  private job  when you wanted to be a govt officer, may be you have to go for business being unable to continue your study for some reason or not being selected in any interview but at the end you will be able to earn two ends meal; and necessary amount of money for your family, may be your status will not be something like upper middle class or middle class but there is a certainty that you will not be a total failure person, so here lies the certainty when you are fighting for your dreams, achievements and goals. When it is certain(Not a total waste) then you can ignore fate or God related to this issue. This is the reason it is said to the students...don't seat ideally depending on God, if you work hard, if you can take right decision at right moment and continue your fight facing the obstacles then one day you will surely be self dependent at least.


When we are not more than 80% sure about any incident which is gonna take place we have the habit to attach the name of God or ask help from him, just like....when someone starting a journey we greet him/her saying ...wish you a happy journey" means i am wishing that your journey becomes a happy one, but the question is..."wishing" to whom? obviously to the almighty who can control everything. Here also you can find the existence of Uncertainty principle,like...if anyone can be sure about the route but cant be sure whether he/she will meet any accident or not and if he/she takes care of a safe journey taking every step very carefully  then he/she can give guarantee that accident will not take place but cant make sure about the route ,so either you can be sure about the route or you can be sure that no accident will take place...both cant be exactly calculated simultaneously.


The problem becomes toughest one when its about human psychology, its really very tough to understand a human being, human psychology is one of the toughest subject cause it can exhibit any activity at any time, we all know this, no one can be cent percent sure about the activities of any human being, specially when you did not have spent longer time with him or her, a man can change with the experiences and with time and what the change will be is totally uncertain, if you ever have spent long time reading or trying to know human psychology then you are aware of it.


so what to do, marriage is one of the most necessary concept for the society to run the society in an ordered way and to keep a discipline but on the other hand, no one (Except God) can be sure about any human being because its become more important when you are taking decision to spend entire life with someone, so the wise persons of the society(who realized it deeply that no one can give cent percent assurance about a certain human being) attached the religious sentiment saying ..."Marriages are made in heaven" at least it will force the people not to leave his/her partner in small issues(which can be seen in love very often), on the other hand if anything wrong happens the couple will try to sort out the things at their level best,it will not be possible neither for the husband nor for the wife to be separate from each other cause the fear of God will chase them.


 By the way, i am not against marriage, neither i am against arranged marriage but attaching the name of God here and there, specially when it becomes a reason of suffering for the entire life then any such thought cant be accepted, if you want to know more then ask those wives who are beaten up by their husbands in daily basis, ask those wives whose husbands burn them with the fire of cigarette or biri, ask those husbands whose wives continuing extra marital affairs. Ask those girls who loves whole heartily her boyfriend, those who were dedicated to their loved ones but they are forced to get married with someone else and have to spend entire life .


In this context i want to share a tweet that i read five six years ago, so far i can remember the trend on parenting was on in twitter, a girl made a tweet on this trend, its one of the best tweets i have ever read, what she wrote is


...our parents do not even want to talk to the boy whom i know very closely for long time but they force us to share bed with a stranger.


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