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Thursday, 27 April 2017

Half in Full

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There is a time comes in your life when you realize it very deeply that though you always wish good for your best friend but when he/she really gets something good in life you start to feel jealous about him/her…this is the same thing happened with me few years back…


Though Arnab is elder than me but he never allowed me to call him Dada(elder brother) and our friendship started because we belonged from the same colony, gradually with time this friendship become more strong and we are now good friends. If you look at my life you will find I am actually a third graded student where as Arnab is really a genius student, hard working in nature and very much studious now if you guess that it’s for something related to result for which I felt myself jealous about Arnab then you are wrong. Actually those days we both were in our teen ages and by nature’s rule we both were expecting someone special in our lives, when Arnab was in twelfth standard God accepted his wish and Tina accepted his proposal and his one sided love of one year has got a new track and direction and I was still wishing…this is the time I felt jealous about Arnab, love can’t be brought into life forcefully, if you are a lucky one then you will get it otherwise not. So at the end I had to accept that I am not as lucky as Arnab and still continuing my wish…


Meeting, dating, taking dinner all these started after the board exam of Arnab and in many events I was  common, I was the medium.


Time passed by as it does every time; with time the bonding between Aranb and Tina became stronger. As expected Arnab carried excellent marks in board exam and started his graduation. Tina is one year younger than him; she was busy for the upcoming board exam. During graduation Arnab secured very good marks in every exam. This is the time when Tina’s family members came to know about them and after my little amount of help both of their family members approved their relationship.


Arnab was planning for higher studies but suddenly Tina started to force him for their marriage, Arnab already got some good job offers but he did not have any planning to do job rather he has a very good plan for his higher study and future  but due to continuous pressure from Tina he had to agree for marriage, that time I talked with Tina and tried to make her understand that there is no hurry to get married so quick and also suggested her to go for higher studies but she did not agree, even her family members also took my side and tried to make her understand but Tina ignored everyone.


So naturally Arnab had to accept a job offer, though the salary was good but not good enough for the expenditures in a metro city like Mumbai, but he had no other way left.
Now Arnab and Tina has a cute baby boy but Arnab is able to meet him once in a month….after one year of marriage Tina started to put pressure on  Arnab to buy a house, though Arnab tried a lot to make her understand that his salary was not enough to afford the loan of a house but just like before Tina stayed in his decision and it became the reason of every day agitation in their family and at the end Arnab had to buy a house, except from bank  he borrowed money  from some of his friends, it happened  just two years ago and in the mean time they have been blessed by God with a cute boy or should I say this boy has seen this earth not by the God’s grace rather by Tina’s pressure…I don’t know exactly.


From last one and half Year Arnab is taking much responsibilities in his job field to increase his income and for this reason he has to remain outside home for most of the time, though he is trying his level best but still there is hardly a day in his life when Tina does not shout at her even over phone.


What we exactly want in a relationship?...it’s not the tag or having someone named girlfriend or boyfriend we want understanding, we want that our partner will realize our condition, we want their support , encouragement and dedication, but unfortunately all these are very much absent from Tina’s side…Though she was  full time Girlfriend of Arnab but her performances were half, she did not understand the quality of Arnab, she never take care of Arnab’s desires, she never discussed about their future rather she always threw decisions.


Now she is “better Half’ of Arnab and here also her performance is half, she has given the entire load to Arnab just to fulfill her desires only. She never tried to realize what the problem Arnab is facing to run the whole family.


Her performance are always half…it’s easy to be in love but it’s tough to perform the duties and responsibilities as a lover…it is easy to make promises but it’s really very tough to fulfill those, Tina has lots of reason to perform such dictatorship acts but Arnab has only one reason to fulfill her wishes and that reason is …love.


When I think about their life it reminds me of the movies ‘Devdas” and “Hum Dil de Chuke Sanam”…in both the movies(novels) I found ‘Parvati” and “Nandini’ as half girlfriends coz they had lots of reasons to get married with another one but Love never became their reason on the other hand Devdas and Sameer had lots of reason to get married with other girls(after marriage of Parvati and Nandini) but they always found love as the strongest reason to wait and to dedicate their life for the persons they loved most.

 I am sharing a Half relationship story at BlogAdda in association with #HalfGirlfriend

(Based on real incidents,for privacy concern names has been changed)