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Friday, 27 October 2017

Contradictory Thoughts Existing in The Society

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My brain is totally confused now-a-days…I am confused…what should I follow and what should I don’t!!!!!!

Today I am gonna share some so called “Teachings” those we have heard numerous numbers of times and those are actually contradictory…



Contradictory thoughts no 1


It’s not masculine to beat the girls (लड़कियों पे हाथ उठाना मर्दानगी नहीं होती)
This is the one of the teachings we all have been taught…

But on the other hand it’s also said that

You should not differentiate between the girls and the boys, all genders should be treated EQUALLY (लड़का और लड़कियों मे भेदा-भेद नही करना चाहिए)


Now tell me which one should I follow, sometime when we quarrel with our friends(boys) and situation become agitated then we go for action…I mean some blows and kicks to our enemies(temporary) now if I should equally treat both the genders then we should beat our friends who are girls also.


Contradictory thoughts no 2


“Opportunity knocks at the door but once”

We all have heard this

But we also have heard that…every new morning brings new opportunity in your life, you should thank the God for giving another chance. (हर एक सुबह एक नयी उम्मीद लेके आता है, भगवान ने तुम्हे एक नया सुबह दिखाया तोह समझलेना एक और मौका दे दिया तुम्हे)

So what should I do, should I avoid a opportunity and should wait for something better or we should accept the first one immediately? May be that first one is not the “best” and can lead you to a wrong way.



Contradictory thoughts no 3


“Only the wearer knows where the shoe pinches”.

On the other hand it is said…don’t judge a person so quick because there must be a story behind his activity.

It is also said…don’t be judgmental.

Now tell me the truth…when a drunkard being drunken crosses the lane of your house with trembling footsteps and murmuring then what is your reaction?

The common reaction is…”that is an idiot drunkard”…thoughts related to this generates in everyone’s mind, we immediately start to hate him or dislike him…but no one tries to know the “story”, we really don’t care for that.

If “only the wearer knows where the shoe pinches” then who we are to take decision about someone seeing him for just few minutes or hours.

Oh, ho…it’s also a common thought that…it’s really very tough to understand how the person is…it needs time to know.

The truth is…no one comes in this world with a bottle of whisky in their hands…”there must be a story” and who knows if we listen that story that can wrench our hearts for long time.


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Contradictory thoughts no 4

 This one is very much related to upper mentioned one…
People talks about hard and smart work but irony is…when wish someone we say…”best of luck” not “best of hard/smart work”.


We believe at the end there is something called “destiny” even now a days “karma” is very popular in discussion and when we fail after repeated tries we say “it was my destiny” but when we see a drunkard then we blame…he must have not tried properly.


There are so many people from below poverty level who tried for long time to secure the future of their families, they worked hard, they tried all the ethical ways but failed at the end…those people can’t tolerate to see their children are dying for food, they can’t see their family members does not have proper dresses now after all these burning and torturing views he takes the help of whisky then what’s wrong with it. 


Some people says…whisky is not the solution then it’s also true that…your hatred is also not a solution


Contradictory Thoughts no 5

it is said that…when you are going to meet a girl/boy for marriage purpose then don’t ask about her/his future.

On the other hand its also said that…relationships should be based on truths(रिश्ते हमेशा सच कि बुनियाद पर बनाना चाहिए,झुठ कि बुनियाद पे नही)


Now tell me…if I don’t know the past of my would be “better half” then how can the be transparency in the relation, how can I have clear concept about her?


I think the suggestion…not to ask the past of your would be spouse is given because everyone knows…there is no profit o ask the past and try to know the truth coz…people will either don’t tell you the truth (will purely lie) or will tell you the half truth or will manipulate the truth….so there is no profit of asking about her/his past.


Some people also have the habit to say (to their spouses)…I have nothing to do with your past, what you are at present matters for me now it’s also said(the famous proverb)…”habit is the second nature”


The habits of people does not change so easily…its really a tough one.


Now let me share why all these thoughts generated in my brain…it’s about two married couples…


First Couple

Recently the husband has come to know that his “better half” have lots of extra marital affairs and so they both are going for divorce, she had this habit before marriage and she continued after a short break after the marriage.


Second Couple

The wife has come to know that his husband cant sleep alone, I mean…before and after marriage her husband always needed someone to sleep during night(sometime in day time), even after marriage when he used to go for official tour alone those days he has slept with someone…ha ha ha ha …presented in a funny way and I think it does not need clarification with which gender he likes to sleep.

Presently they have filed a divorce.
 
Really it’s always right…habit is the second nature.


when people immediately start to hate a drunkard and specially when people suggest not to ask about the past I feel like they want to rule out the subject called “psychology”, so many scholars, so may psychologists, so many psychiatrist are spending their sleepless nights researching on this topic…are all they stupid?


ufffff...not more today...i need to be relaxed so i am gonna sit and drink...no,no, don't criticize me...."there is a story" behind it, at first listen it friends....just kidding.

****This post does not mean to support alcoholism or any other drugs, some psychological analysis has been made...nothing more than that.