Mohabbat

"Mohabbat bhi Zindagi ki tarah hoti hai
Har mod asaan nehi hota, har mod pe khushiya nehi milti.
Jab hum zindagi ka saath nehi chhodte toh
Mohabbat ka saath kyun chhode??
---Mohabbatein

Thursday, 30 August 2018

Conversation With My Son...A Futuristic Conversation on Practicality and Marriage

After returning back from college my son Rahul will enter into my room with the plate of foods his mom(Who will be that unluckiest one ?????God Knows) will give him to finish, i will be busy with blogging( i will continue it till am alive) , he will ask whether i have time to talk to him or not, though i know he will be well acquainted with the fact that while going through the blog posts of different bloggers i really don't like any type of interruption(Except from his Mom) but the excitation and the eagerness in his voice will force me to switch off my laptop and to talk to him.


 

Me : what's up buddy, it seems you wanna share something.
 

Being too much happy on my interest to talk to him, he will take a seat and will continue
 

Rahul : you know, two of the girls of my college showing too much interest in me, as i informed you six months earlier but you did not give any suggestion how to deal with it and said when the right time will come you will discuss this issue.

Me : tell me the names of the girls
 

Very excitedly he will answer

...Rupali and Sangeeta
 

Me : financial conditions ?
 

he will be surprised with the question and the reaction will be
...what ???? i did not get you


 

Me : i am asking about their financial conditions
 

being perplexed he will answer me
...Rupali  belongs to a millionaire family, the only child of successful businessman Mr. Ghosh of our city and Sangeeta belongs to a middle class family.
 

Me : tell me about the beauty of their faces,i mean who is more beautiful between them ?
 

Rahul : i think, i mean in my eyes Sangeeta is much beautiful than Rupali.
 

Me : it does not matter what you think or feel , the question is what the entire college think about the beauty of these two girls ? 

Rahul: Everyone says Rupali is much beautiful than 
Sangeeta rather most of them believe that beauty like Rupali is hard to find.

i will remain silent for a while to decide which one i will share first, those two real life experiences of my life which i experienced two-three decades earlier, he will look at me very curiously to get the reply, he will forget to take his foods.


Me: i think you should finish the foods otherwise your mom will be angry ?


while chewing the food he will ask


...so , today again you will not open your mouth.


Me : no ,i will, but for this you have to skip your study today and what you will learn will gonna help you for the entire life.


He will be too much excited to listen such positive reply from me, i will suggest him to complete the food and bring two cups of coffee for both us to have a conversation, when he will be busy to bring the coffee i will switch of the lights of my room and will take seat in the balcony, until he returns i will cherish the beauty of sunset and will plan to click some pictures of sunset visiting the nearby dam to share in my blog, he will return with two fuming cups in a plate(or may be in two hands) will keep them in the table and will take a seat, then i will start


...today i will share two real life stories those i experienced during my 20's and 30's


he will look at me holding his breath to listen more


Me : so, today the incidents i am gonna share is as much true as you are seeing me at present.


he will node his head.


Me : so here is the incident no. one...


Joseph was three years senior than me when i was in school, when i was in class nine standard i came to know about the love story of Joseph and Simran, those days their love story became a matter of discussion and became very much popular just like other love stories from my known circle, later i shifted from that place taking admission in XI th standard in a different city, after seven years of completing my graduation one day  i had to visit a metro city for certain reason, while i was on my way in the bus i met one of my batch mates there, after two hours of journey the bus became less crowded and my batch mate noticed the co-passenger on the other side,knocked him and started  the conversation, after getting down my batch mate asked whether i recognized that co-passenger or not and when i replied "No" he  asked me being surprised...don't you know remember Joseph, have you forgot him?


i replied very excitedly...Joseph means, Joseph and Simran?


he replied with a smile ...yes, you remember them ?.


...yes i do.


My batch mate replied with a upset voice


...you know ,Joseph has not done fair with Simran, after seven years of relationship he left her.


being shocked i asked...but why?


...for money and prosperity, Simran made repeated requests, even almost begged to Joseph to not to leave her but Joseph did not give much importance to her, Joseph was already doing a job after completing the masters, he was getting lots of  marriage proposals and finally he got married with a suitable one and just after one year of his marriage he became the CEO of a multi national company, a luxurious life, huge bank balance, property, expensive cars, he married that girl seeing her property , her father is one of the successful businessman of this city.


narrating this i will stop , my son will ask


...what happened to simran aunty?


Me : now i will share another life story.


Rahul : but you did not reply me, what happened to simran aunty?


Me : just listen what i wanna share.


without asking anymore question he will concentrate to listen.
Me : do you know why your name is "Rahul"?


Rahul : no, i dont know, probably you and Mom preferred this name.


Me: no, this is not the reason, actually there is much practical thought behind this name.


i will take a gap,he will wait to listen more.


Me : Do you remember,once i shared the love story of my friend Rahul with you.


there will be a quirky smile in his face, with a return smile i will continue


...so, spending life loving a single girl for long twenty years what did he get in return?


Rahul: nothing.


Me : that's the truth and today i will inform you what people and the society think about him, everyone says...he is a fool and an impractical person. no one has the interest to listen to such love or love story, people want to know about success and achievements , they want to know the ways of success and the milestones you or someone has achieved, the truth of the society is...they are concerned about your success, you will be praised if you have bungalow, huge bank balance, two three cars and luxurious lifestyle and you will be considered as fool if you give too much importance to sacrifice and dedication in love or any other relationship, you have to be in a good position to live in the society with respect, praises and appreciations, how many hearts you have broken in the name of love, whether you were a playboy or not...society is not interested about all these and this is the truth.


completing the coffee i will continue


...in the case of Joseph and Simran,think about the truth...after five, ten or twenty years people will forget about their love story,those who will remember  will not give it much importance, Joseph will be respected and praised as a successful human being, now the time period in their love story is too long so it will need time to forget for the people but think about the love stories which continues for few months, or one or two years, if Joseph would have left simran after one year of patch up everyone will say "Oh this happens in life", "This is too common to see", no one is concerned how much simran is hurt, if Simran suffers or finds it hard(Just like Rahul) to forget Joseph then she will be tagged as "Foolish girl", "Impractical human being" on the other hand no one will blame Joseph, no one call him an unethical human being, he will "Move on" in life and will be praised, he will get married with a girl seeing her property and bank balance and later he will be praised for his success....this is society my child, this is life.


Then i will ask him to bring one more cup of coffee for me and when he will return and will take seat, i will start


...you asked me about Simran and i ignored your question do you know why? because no one is considered about the people who are not successful, it took long years for Simran to wipe out the pains, to get over the sufferings,presently she is a govt officer but my child when you will get down from your own expensive car, wearing Armani suits and branded shoes no one will ask how did you achieve it, no i don't wanna suggest you to perform any illegal activity but at least you can play  tricks in life, being a honest govt. officer when you will get down from the rickshaw not a single eye will look at you...


"if you are poor by birth then its your fate but if you die poor then you are fool" , so when getting married always try to find out a girl who  has much wealth than you and yes, must get married with a beautiful girl, beautiful not in your eyes, not in your perspective rather what the opinion of the people, what the majority says,a beautiful wife with golden jewellery which will cover her entire body is the wisest decision of life , just say "Marriages are made in heaven" and be tricky while getting married, choose among those fifty pictures those will be sent to you and hit the target with the arrow(Marriage) calculating all the dimensions of life, it does not matter how much educated she is, you can force her or make her understand to have a degree that will match yours....work in a planned way just like Joseph or you can achieve the tags "Fool"  or "Impractical" following the path of Rahul.


Rahul : so, why did you kept my name Rahul? so that i always remember what the society think about him, what the tags he has gained in his life and i never follow his path.


Me: yes, that's very much true.


Rahul: i have a question..


Me: yes, please.


Rahul: you are suggesting me to get married with a girl who is more rich than me but how will it take place.


Me: this is the biggest loophole of "Marriages are made in heaven", you know the fact his...you will get proposals of marriage according to  your status, if you are a teacher of a primary school not a single business tycoon will send marriage proposal with his daughter but if you are an IAS officer you will get lots of proposals from wealthy families. so, you have to achieve something big to be more rich after marriage. Tell me, how many marriages you have seen or heard where a lady teacher of a high school getting married with a paan gumtiwalla seeing his love for her or good character of that paan gumtiwala or his struggling mentality ? have you ever heard it ? i have never listened or observed such, even if a lady teacher falls in love with a gumti walla and they get married secretly performing necessary religious rituals like in a temple and taking oths in the name of God then the society neither the parents of the girl will accept their marriage saying "Marriages are made in heaven" and will blame the boy saying he has trapped the girl. You know its not gentle behavior to ask the monthly income of any human being but when you will meet the parents of your probable bride they will ask your designation to guess your monthly salary.


Rahul: when did you realized all these?


Me: i realized it after fifteen years of break up...of Rahul and Tina and even written a post on it.


Rahul : So, what should i do about Rupali and Sangeeta?


Me: Just ignore them, try to achieve a good designation and get married with a rich beautiful girl, whose parents have huge bank balance and will send their daughter covering with golden jewellery and give thanks to God in front of everyone saying "i am so lucky getting such a good human being like her in my life,its really true..."Marriages are made in heave." Thank you so much God."

Present day
 

Last year one of the girls from my known circle eloped with a boy and they get married in a temple performing all the rituals and taking oaths in the name of God,they returned back home in the evening and...this year that same girl has got married with someone else which her parents searched and arranged for her...so much true it is...

                   "Marriages are made in heaven"









Thursday, 23 August 2018

Defocusing and Diverting Education System And Guidance #BlogToPM

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"Jack of all trades ,master of nothing"

Every human being has heard it many times in her/his life, we all know what does it mean, so i think no explanation is needed(why unnecessarily lengthen the post).

To give your best performance in life you should have mastery in that subject...whether its STUDY, cricket, football, chess or badminton...it needs long practice, gathering knowledge in that subject for long years and dedicated attachment.


Now whats the biggest fault i have found in our education system is...

The STRATEGY(Format) to teach the student is actually de-focusing them and diverting them form their aim and target.


Hopefully one day our PM or education minister will go through this post and will give this idea a thought.
so, coming to the main points...


Student who is studying in eleventh standard and wants to make carrier in the field of PHYSICS then whats the necessary of existence of ENGLISH ,HINDI/BENGALI , CHEMISTRY AND THE ADDITIONAL SUBJECT ? let me explain...


A student who wants to be a physicist why he needs to spend time behind Hindi/Bengali , in chemistry and in additional subject ?

the general format of XI-XII th standard is...


Two compulsory subjects...English and Hindi/ Bengali (Hindi in Hindi spoken states and Bengali in Bengali spoken states like West Bengal)

Three main subjects....physics, chemistry and mathematics
and an additional subject...statistics or biology or something else.


when a student is already from Bengal and have read Bengali till class X standard then why he needs to spend time for Bengali in 11th stand. when he wants to make carrier in Physics  in later life, logically he needs to know English because in later life he have to read books in that language but with the compulsory rule that she/he has to bring pass mark in English is actually diverting...


A physics teacher/professor has nothing to do with biology and chemistry,let me inform that the amount of knowledge needed for a physics student in chemistry is already there in the higher study physics books,relativity or quantum or statistical mechanics has nothing to do with why


Zn + H2So4= ZnSo4 + H2


For a stdent who wants to make carrier in physics the two subjects...Physics and Mathematics are enough.


6 subjects in 18 hours( 6 hours for sleeping and nature's call) means...3 hours per subject

 
2 subjects in 18 hours means ...9 hours per subject

 
which one you think is better? which one help you two gather more knowledge in the subjects?


now if you give a look at arts stream the combinations are shocking


English and Bengali...compulsory subjects


Sanskrit, Philosophy and Political Science...main subjects
Music o/education...additional subjects


now look at the main subjects...there is no connection with one another, they have nothing to do with each other.


A student who wants to make carrier In English why she/he needs to spend time behind philosophy or political science? and vice versa and vice vesra.


The existence of languages like Bengali and Hindi as compulsory subjects is totally meaningless...these are the obsolated languages in global fields and you have nothing to do with these languages if you are not making carrier in these languages.


This same format can be seen in Hons. graduation also...you have to bring pass mark in compulsory subjects(English And Bengali) and also have to bring pass mark in pass course subjects,like if are doing physics honors then your pass course subjects are chem and math and you have to bring pass marks on these subjects...you are forced to invest time on those subjects which is actually has nothing to do with your future.


Till class ten a student learning different subjects ... this concept is good, they should be made aware about the different streams so that they can choose their field of interest but after the tenth standard they should know in which stream and subject they want to make their carrier and this is only possible when the evaluation of a student will be done in proper way,that is...teachers and parents should analyze the student, make discussion with them, so that the students can find out the right direction according to their merit and interest.


Once i taught some B.Tech. students, they were from different streams...like, civil engineering, mechanical Eng, computer science etc and they all had to read...the basics of thermodynamics, relativity etc, logically a computer science student has nothing to do with space-time basic rules or with entropy and Enthalpy....its just a wastage of time,specially when after a certain semester the subjects like relativity or thermodynamics have vanished. why don't they focus more on  the subjects from the beginning which will help the students in their respected streams in future...


To teach relativity in one month....probably Einstein could not do it....when its for the marks....

I think the format used in 11-2h standard and in graduation standard is actually de-focusing and diverting...


6 tuition for six different subjects one more the subject in which the student is weak...
 
2 tuition for two subjects and add two more for the same two subjects that is...4 tuition for two subjects...


which one is better?

Practice makes Perfect...we all know it...


now if you practice 6 subjects in 18 hours 


and


if you practice 2 subjects in 18 hours

which one will make you more perfect in the subjects?

Its true that form last more than 100 years millions of students are going through this format and have proved themselves in different fields but untill you  try an idea how can you be confirm that this new idea will not make much better students?


A present day Physicist or a philosopher could gather more knowledge if they had not to spend time behind those subjects which presently are none of their use...like biology or Bengali or Sanskrit or Chemistry(the amount of chemistry he needs to know were/is already in their physics books).


I(not only me,rather we) personally know lots of human beings those...


who wanted to be an English teacher/professor and presently they are....now i surprise why they read subjects like Philosophy or Sanskrit?


who wanted to be sanskrit teacher and presently they are doing job succesfully...why did they read Philosophy and English?


who wanted to be Physicist and presently performing excellent  in their field as a teacher/professor...how English/Hindi?Bengali/Biology can help them now?


I don't wanna mean at all that its only the Education System which is responsible for such an illogical format rather its only the Education system that can bring the change  forcing the parents and teachers to be more focused so that the students do not suffer from problem to realize and analyze themselves.


Its a format that has been introduced several years back but now this is working as diversion...de-focusing the parents and teachers and so the students.








This post is written with the Indispire Prompt , edition 235, suggested by Me, Mine And Myself and selected by bloggers in Indiblogger




Wednesday, 22 August 2018

Parenting, Society And Education

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After two days of proposing the concept in Indispire the thoughts knocked into my mind...what will happen if its get selected, some bloggers will share their thoughts, a discussion will continue through different blog posts, then ? will any change take place? anything will change?


Change...Hmm...the inevitable one but it needs time to take place, sometime it takes too much time specially in those fields where change is needed faster.


Sometime with some of the parents i shared some ideas so that their children can focus on their desired streams,the ideas i shared were nothing but the ideas and concepts i read in different books and learnt from TRULY educated human beings but the result was upsetting, though most of the parents listened with deep concentration but continued with their previous thoughts.


The parents are pressurizing their children for better marks...this is so common to listen, lots of discussions and researches have already taken place but has anything changed ? then why some people are still continuing to make discussions and researches in this fields,there can be two reasons...firstly,with a little hope that change will take place one day and secondly, to make themselves calm after bringing out the irritation that are burning their hearts, once in an International Journal one of my articles on educational psychology has been published and i wrote it for the second reason mostly.


Now let me share some of the common issues related to education...

once in a book i read a concept that was very logical and rarely the parents and the teachers implement the concept...


whenever we meet any student we ask for her/his total percentage of marks, this is too common to mention. while taking admission after the board exam your total percentage of marks matters a lot, a parent forces their child to take science instead of arts, if their child denies their proposal then sometime the parents beat their child so badly that the child becomes hospitalized(a recent incident from my known circle),the irony is


A student who secures average 60% in arts and 80% in science


and the other student


Who secures 80% in arts and 60% in science


and both of their total percentage is same then we consider their level of merit is same....this is what i read.


Neither the teachers nor the parents focus on the merit of the student  according to subjects and both of these student will be pressurized to take admission in science stream.

For the parents

Now comes the concept of percentage of marks...

without going to too much deeper discussion, let me share something common...i personally know two boys, both of them are working in a govt. office, the first one ranked third in the entire state in class X board exam(later did nothing remarkable) and the second boy never ever ranked in any exam whether in class tests or board exam, always secured average 60% marks but both of them are presently the govt. officers in the same post, so logically a single result does not matter much.


Seeing some of the human beings ,who are working as primary school and high school teachers, i really feel to laugh at some people, hold on, i am not disrespecting the primary or high school teachers, rather i have deep respect specially for the teachers of primary school because they are working in the grass root lever, teachers are the base makers, then why i feel to laugh at SOME  PEOPLE?


actually with the pace they started their student life, holding first position in every class, securing the top marks in school or in the district in board exams, the speed, the dedication and the MERIT they showed that time i thought they will end up being a world famous scientist or philosopher or engineer...whatever it is but she/he will surely be a world famous personality and for such an expectation some people are responsible who used to praise those students so intensely and in profound way,the praises and the appreciations of that time, the discussions about that first boy or girl every where...all these forced me to think so but i am upset...they are not world famous now, somehow managed a job in school as a teacher, presently they are working  with the other human beings(their colleagues) who have never secured first or second rank ,those colleagues have never been able to  enlist themselves among top ten/twenty students in any class, presently those rank holders draw the same salary with those who never hold any rank in class, presently they have same designation the non-rank holders have.


Its very common to listen about students killing themselves and for the students who are spending their lives in extreme pressure and intolerable mental tortures of their parents i would like to share my upper mentioned thoughts to show them...getting 50-60% of marks you can spend your life very happily and with financial security.


Anything wrong happening with a student for the mental pressure and torture..not only the the parents are responsible rather the entire society is responsible and this is the society we have made...ridiculous it is...is not it?



The Truth of Our Society

In every colony...whether it is in a metro city or town,semi-town or village...a rank holder student always get special treatment and others are ignored such a way that they even do not exist, does not matter those other students have skill/quality in music/cricket/football/painting/ or something else except study.


By the way, to cover up a long distance journey you must have to start with low speed otherwise just go back to the people (when you were a student) and ask them what were their expectations from the first boy/girl of your class.

Though the parents are always blamed for pressurizing their children...i think, to some extent parents are wrong but what can they do when their living in a society where


....Firstly,A boy/girl is tagged as "Good boy" or "Good Girl" , no one focuses(Or want to know,never me discussions) on the character ,good ethics or moral values, a 90%-95% marks holder is always treated as a "good boy/girl" where they should be tagged as "Good student"...this is much logical i think.

Secondly, the entire nation is suffering from unemployment, Govt. does not have proper infrastructure or planning to wash away the employment problem and with this, bribe has added extra height so in this scenario every parent are worried about the future of their children, so logically its not the parents who are solely responsible for pressuring their children.


My next post will be Blog to PM covering this indispire prompt  with a little bit of hope that may be one day the govt will give it a thought.



Written on the Indispire Prompt proposed by Me, Mine And Myself and selected by Indibloggers






Tuesday, 21 August 2018

21st Aug...Non-Fiction(Song Blog)

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21st August, Present Day






Exam Of The Exam Boards..Resharing

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This post originally shared in my blog with the title Taking Examination  Dated 31st October 2017

This is not a work of fiction, its what I have experienced during a train journey in the month of September this year.

 Standing in the space in between the two gates of the compartment of the train I was busy to cherish the beauty of the nature, their conversation was gradually making me more interested about them and after a while it became irresistible for me to ask them

…is it really possible?


The boy closer to me replied with a smile


…Yes, why not? It’s a very simple calculation.


I felt an inner anxiety to know how? So I asked again
…You really did it?


There were three boys and a girl, she replied with a smile


…yes we did it, rather from that time my friendship has become stronger with all these there idiots.
Then the third boy took part in the conversation


…what can be the biggest proof than our present admission in our desired colleges?


…Yes, I can understand it from your conversation.


They all laughed out.


But I have still some doubts, I mean it’s not clear to me…with the intention to know the entire process I said this.
The first boy with a smiling face started to explain me the entire process very enthusiastically


…Look, my name is Arnab and here is Ashoke, Aparna and Arkit. My friendship with Ashoke and Arkit is from the 10th grade and Aparna has become our friend from the mid season of our 12th standard. Let me tell you the truth…we all don’t have much interest in study we are doing it because our parents want it and they expect good marks from us. None of us secured more than 55% marks in the test exam that takes place three months before the 12th grade board exam but it was not a headache we were making plan for the board exam, so plan was like this…according to alphabetical order Aparna will be in the front of all of us then just behind her there will be Arkit, then me(Arnab) and then Ashoke, so we decided the certain group of every paper, like Aparna will take care of group B of math question coz it contains differential equations and she does not like other topics like integral calculus and geometry, so Ashoke took the responsibility of integral calculus which he likes a lot and Arkit took care of geometry and I opted  the algebra and short questions. None of us had to take much load and during exam we exchanged our answer sheets and copied the answers.

Then Ashoke interrupted


…on the other hand if you follow the questions of the previous years like …if you are giving exam in an even year then follow then question papers of previous even years and 30% question will be common. You know what’s the best part of our examination process…they check our memory not our creativity or application.
Aparna somehow managing her smile replied


…yes, it’s true, you know I had  remembered some of the answers of differential calculus just like we used to remember history and geography till class ten, now I have forgot all those.
Completing the sentence she continued to laugh.


Ashoke continued


…we all did it, some maths are too tough to understand, so many equations you have to use to solve those problems and we don’t have much interest in all these then it’s better to remember them like history and geography and after doing all these if you don’t have answer for certain question then the toilet is there to help you, you will find it tough where to pee in the toilet during exam.
I agreed by nodding my head.


He continued


…in the toilet you will get lots of Xerox copies, books and hand written notes and to know where you will get the answer of certain question you have to spend only ten minutes just before the exam.
How much marks did you carry in the board exam?...i asked curiously.
Arkit answered


…we all have secured more than 76% marks which none of us secured in the eleventh grade and in the test exam.
Then they all laughed out.


…So you gonna repeat this process in college exams?
Yes, for sure, this time Aparna and Ashoke have to find other partners because they are in the same college and we will also make a team with our new friends, I am in the same college with Arkit…replied Arnab.



Now the question which arises is…who actually take the exam? …the exam boards taking exam of the students or the students are taking the examination of exam boards?









Re-shared for the Indispire prompt (Edition 235) By Me,Mine And Myself







Sunday, 19 August 2018

The Ordered Society...






Its quite common and frequent to see the introverts like me spending time "being far from the madding crowd", the bank of the river closer to my house is one my proffered places. 

Yesterday evening i was spending such a beautiful time period seating in the bank cherishing the beauty of sunset, suddenly i remembered that i have to call my friend to inform him the official issue that i resolved just few hours earlier. so i made the call and an unknown voices received it.

...its really so nice to spend the evening cherishing the reddish beauty of nature.


Who has received the call ?How does He know what am i doing...the thought knocked into my mind.i asked for my friend and ended up saying


...probably its a cross connection.


...no, you are talking with the right person.


A sound of flute was coming from the other side, i was about to cut the call, the man replied


...dont cut the call, let me switch of the music and will talk to you, you are eager to talk to me.


i was surprised with His comment, "who is He" "has my friend changed His voice to make fun with me " all these thoughts were knocking in my mind.


switching off the music, He asked


...can you tell what music were playing in the background.


i identified it...it was Raag Jog by Rakesh Churasiya, but i answered to avoid the conversation


...no, have no connection with music.


yah, really...he replied .


i replied again with ...yes, really.


It will be good na if i play flute and you play Tabla  i like to play flute a lot...saying this He stopped for a while.


i was shocked with His idea, he added


...i know you have completed your master degree in Tabla and have taken part in cultural programs numerous numbers of time and from last one year you are confused whether you should try for Ph.D. in Tabla or not.


Do you know Mr. J...i asked being curious.


Mr.J is my tabla teacher and once i mentioned my friend about my teacher but did not mention about my deep attachment with Tabla.


He replied


...yes i know him, he has expertise in Tabla and he is a very hard working human being.


Then He added


...During  school days you and your sister have taken part in many cultural programs and have received many appreciations, praises and lots of prizes, that time you completed your bachelor degree in tabla from an institution.


i consolidated myself...so this man knows me from my childhood days, that's why he knows about all these.


 i was about to stop the conversation but He started again
...you are right, "You are the biggest fool ever existed in this world"


i said to myself...be aware Jyotirmoy,this man is trying to continue the  conversation with you either by criticizing you or by making praise, so stupid he is, cant he realize i am not interest to talk. once i shared my thoughts about myself in an Indispire prompt...Me About Myself


so, you read my blog?...i asked for the shake of the gentleness.


...yes i read your blog, by the way i am not "stupid" and neither you are disinterested to talk to me and yes i even know what are your future blogs posts.


It was almost spellbound, the heart started to beat faster, i could not believe my ears ,when i was pinching myself to verify, the man replied


....don't worry, you still have time rather years in your hand.
with a little pause ,he started


...i am here to answer your queries, you know i like you a lot.







what is He saying? how can He like me? 


interrupting my thoughts He said


...i know you are surprised to know that i like you, let me tell you the reason...you are the only human being in this earth who has never praised me in last five years and also you are the only human being who has used rough and defaming words for me, you have always blamed me for whatever wrong happened around you.


i remained speechless because everything He said are very much true. i was waiting to listen further. Preparing myself to get punishment from Him.


ok, you have read about stone age in history book, i am talking about that ancient time when human being used to live in the caves...He asked me.


i replied with "Yes"


Then He added


...ok, let it go, tell me how many times in your life you have seen that a human being cheating his best friend?
...many times.


...ok, now tell me , how many times you have seen a man /an woman cheating their closed relatives, specially those who trusted him/her a lot ?


...many times


...do you think corruption has come into existence in a profound way in a short time period? 


...no it took long years.


....means, gradually with time it has increased a lot.


...yes.


then He said


...now comes the most vital question.


i was totally perplexed coz everything were going beyond my brain...stone age,  cheating with the one who trusted you a lot, cheating the relatives, corruption...whats are all these? so confusing.


He asked me the final question


...have you ever seen that after giving a birth a 

mother/parents visiting the near by temple/mosque/church to take oath in my name saying

"i will take care of my child as much possible"
or
"i will always be there with my child"
or
"i will serve my child all the necessary things of life as much as possible by me/us"


have you seen or listened any such ceremony?


...no never.


With a deep exhale of satisfaction He started


...you know, "evolution" in the society and in the thought process have came with time, there was no concept of marriage when human beings used to live in cave, they only knew to eat and to fulfill their physical necessities. Later with time the wise persons of the society realized the necessity of marriage, i know you have read Upanishads, there you have read about Nachiketa so you know how the concept of marriage has come into existence. what would have happened if the concept of marriage has not existed...you can easily guess it...a total imbalance in the society.


i was listening to Him with deep  concentration, He continued


...you can cheat your friend who trust you a lot, you can cheat your relative who blindly believe you and these are very common to see around, now to run the society in a disciplined manner, to keep a balance and to stop the unnecessary chaos the wise persons brought the idea of marriage, you always blame me for creating the concept of marriage because people take oath on my name to perform his/her responsibilities to his/her spouse but cant you see the other side.


Being highly curious i asked


....what's that?


...the other side is the vicious human nature, cheating the best friend or relative, playing with the emotions of others and always spending a selfish life, to stop such activities the wise persons crated the concept of marriage keeping God and the society as the witness, they use the fear of human mind for me and they are not wrong, they have done the correct job, in a small issue a girl/boy can leave her/his beloved but with that same issue or rather with a much bigger issue she/he will not leave her/his spouse, being afraid of me or with the thought that "what society will tell about me". The way the lovers go for breakup in small issues, the way the relatives cut their relation with each other in the same way if people could go for separation after marriage then think how much disordered the society would be. "adjustment" is very much necessary in every phase and condition of life, its easy to show "dis-adjustment" while in love but you have to "adjust" after marriage.


i was listening Him holding my breath.


He continued


...you always blame me for the creating the concept of marriage, let me inform you, i created only human beings, later whatever have happened, you, the human beings are responsible for it, actually its not your fault its about the concept "marriages are made in heaven" forces you to think that way but let me inform you...what do you think ?i don't have any work except going for match making, what do you think....A will get married with D or J will get married with S , all these i do for the entire day? have you ever seen an highly educated man with high designation job  is getting married with a lady who has passed eight standard or getting married with a lady who has completed only tenth standard, have i ever said that educational qualification will be preferred in marriage, if i would have arranged the marriage then i would surely focus on the humanity of that groom than the qualification. Let me make it more easier....have you ever seen
highly educated man with high designation  is looking for a suitable bride mentioning "tenth or eighth pass girl will also work",  looking for a suitable bride saying "an uneducated will also work but she should have humanity, ethics and good moral values", they are doing nothing wrong, this is how the society runs, the society you have created, i just tried to make it clear that i never work as a match maker.


He took a pause for a while, i was waiting to hear more from Him, then He started again


...you know , giving maruli(Making circle with cow dung)  is considered as a holy activity, to light the incense sticks  in front of the pictures of God and Goddess are considered as the pious works, most of the people do it out of religious belief but the truth is, all these activities have scientific reasons  and lots of people are unaware of it because the wise persons introduced all these adding the names of Gods, they gave it a religious touch, why ? were they fool ? no, the truth is...if you add religious thought people will follow it blindly on the other hand in the ancient time only few people used to be educated, they had mastery in different subjects...from spirituality to science and also human psychology, so in the same way they attached religious sentiment with  marriage noticing the cheating mentality in human nature, noticing the mentality to ditch in human behavior and simultaneously observing the fear to God in human beings,so naturally those who can cheat and ditch raising small issues will stop their activity being afraid of me, this will help to maintain an ordered society, this will help to stop fighting among the men/women for a certain women/men. Did you get me?



Lots of thoughts were hovering in my mind so i was late to reply, He asked again

...did you get me?

...yah, yah i got it. will you please share more.

...Yah sure, ok, now let me remind you..."The society is patriarchal" this is what you have heard many times in your life and you know the negative consequences those the women have faced after their marriage,like, they did not have the authority to spend a social life like men, they did not have the authority to do job, they used to spend a caged life, now tell me if i would be the creator of marriage would i make such a creation with negative sides, i can never be wrong...every human being believe it and know it,so many husbands and wives are there who did not talk with each other from past several years but yet they are maintaining their relationship, why? because they are afraid to break it coz they take oath in the name of me, they kept lots of witnesses during marriage and they are afraid what will be their answers if the society ask for the reason of divorce , on the other hand some are going for divorce being irritated with each other, now answer me ...If marriages are made in heaven then did i make mistake for those who has taken divorce with each other? and one more question, if marriages are made in heaven and human being can  break it taking divorce then human being must be more powerful than me but you know its not true. Why don't you understand that i don't have the nature to melt my nose in the business of others, people are solely responsible for what they do and yes at the end i will go for the calculation and will give the result which you call "Karma", they have to pay for their Karma.

 We both remained silent for a moment, then i asked

...can i call you, i need your number.

i listened He was laughing and replied

...no dear, it was much needed to make you understand the differences between the pure mentality and cheating habits of human being, this will help you take future steps in your life. so bye for now but remember whenever i will feel that you are perplexed in life i will help you this way or that way.








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Tuesday, 14 August 2018

Dull Brain...Animal And Reptile Psychology

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During my school and college days i have heard it several times that how should be the lifestyle of a student to be a successful one...yes, i am talking about those free 'Gyans' our parents give us which we gradually realize deeply with time. So, today i am gonna share such a teaching which is actually very fruitful if can be followed properly...



Bidyarthi Pancha laxanam (Five necessary habits of a student)


Sleep like a dog...


Dogs never sleep for hours after hours, they take as much sleep as necessary and always in a conscious mode, whenever you see a dog make a sound and you can experience the prompt reaction of the dogs...their ears will be straight and hey will immediately open their eyes.
The sleeping habit of students should be like dogs, any student who has the to sleep for hours after hours and wakes up after repeated knocking then their is lesser probability that she/he can enrich herself/himself with knowledge. Our brain is like an iron rod...if you keep it unused/less-used it will get rusted with time,on the other side the more you use it the more it will be sharp.


Eat like a crow...the crows never eat too much food  rather they prefer small amount of food time to time, too much eating causes nausea feelings, can create disturbance in digestion...both of these will hamper your concentration and time to focus and invest in your study.


Work like an Ass...a student should have the mentality to work like an Ass, i don't think any explanation needed about the hard working ability of Asses.


Focus like a Heron...the Herons can spend hours after hours looking at the water standing in the same place without a single move and at the end gives the right blow to take out the fish,just like the Herons the students should be focused to their targets ignoring whatever happening around.



These are the four rules i can remember and have forgotten  the fifth one ...as i was not a good student, doesn't matter that i have hold the position many times.

Few years earlier when i had the habit to watch television that time in Animal Planet channel(so far i can remember) i watched how the Pythons (Pythonidae) arrange their foods...a python visits(specially during the summer days) the near by tank to search for the prey, sometime a python have to wait(Hiding himself in the bush) for 7-10 days until the prey visits the tank to drink water, so after watching this i really bestowed my head to this reptile for their patience.
from the above mentioned animals and reptile i have taken the nature to remain loyal and to love whole heartily (Blindly ????)  from the dog, may be this is the reason the category "Tadap" existing in my blog...may be, am not sure.




So,coming back to the discussion, if we observe the habits and characteristics of the animals and reptiles we can experience some extraordinary psychological facts which the human beings should learn from them, like the eating habit of the crows, dedication of the dogs, patience from the pythons,hunting habit from the Tigers...if a tiger's stomach is full then he will not go for hunting...they are not like us,the human beings,who are killing each other raising several issues.


 

After experiencing and reading about the natures and habits of the animals and reptiles my respect for them is too intense to describe in words.

Sometime i have watched the patience of the house lizards who stays in the same place for hours after hours,even, just a month back i found a lizard just outside the wall of my room who stayed in the same position for 18 hours and my respect for them got a height but few days earlier after taking some foods in the evening while i was just headed towards my room upstairs i stopped in the first step noticing the lizard who was watching a black insect....the lizard was in the wall in the left side of mine and the insect was in the front wall of mine, they were in right angles with each other,the difference between them was hardly one feet, i stopped there for fifteen minutes to watch the activity, then suddenly the black insect jumped on the floor mat and watching this the lizard also jumped in the mat and headed towards the insect to capture ...and my all respect for this reptile vanished in that moment...the patience of the lizard for which i became the devotee of this reptile was actually the reflection of their dull brain, that day i realized the lizards watch the insects for long time before hunting because their dull brain needs time to realize whether its the insect they eat or not....just like a dull headed human being who takes long time to realize even a simple matter and reacts very late, so how did i realize it...


After jumping on the mat the black insect  headed towards the near by rack which is attached to the wall where the lizard was waiting and following the insect the lizard also jumped on the mat but attacked a black plastic piece which was on the mat, later he realized that its not an eating material and leaving the piece the lizard looked for the insect which was gradually heading towards the rack,the lizard again took some time to observe and then captured it....so, watching the insect jumping on the floor the lizard's brain immediately forgot about the characteristics and the looks of that insect for his poor memory power and so attacked the black plastic piece, logically in that one foot by one foot small area the lizard cant miss the target so naturally it was the reflection of poor memory which takes time to realize anything and i misunderstood it as the same habit of pythons.


Pics are bit hazy coz i had to capture as soon as possible...

The insect actually near his legs(Left Side)

Later he realized his mistake and made the right attack.

 

From that day, my respect for the patience of the lizards vanished totally.